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"TRAIN UP A CHILD..."
VII. BAD BEHAVIOR -- WRONG TRAINING
(Mt. 12:33; Gal. 5:22; Heb. 12:11)
- The character and behavior of a child says a lot about the parents. Just as
good behavior evidences loving care and balanced training, bad behavior indicates a failure in parental control.
- There are no perfect children -- children are supposed to act like children, not adults.
But there is a difference between children being children and behavior that is defiant, discourteous, and disrespectful.
Some parents seem blinded to the bad behavior of their children. Surely, they must care that their children are
not liked and accepted by others.
- There is no area quite so sensitive as approaching parents about bad behavior in their
children. Parents see such an approach, first, as a reflection on them rather than a concern for the well being
of the children. Their pride and ego many times take precedence over the pursuit of good character in their children
-- genuine efforts to produce change fall on deaf ears . Poor parenting skills are defended at the expense of the
children.
- It is imperative that parents be able to see bad behavior for what it is and take whatever steps are necessary
to rectify it. Parents, not only will you suffer shame if you have done your job poorly but your children will
suffer more.
QUESTIONS
- What figure is employed in scripture to teach lessons about natural produce from a source?
- Explain Mt. 12:33; Gal. 5:22; Heb. 12:11.
- In this lesson, consideration is being given to looking at a child's behavior and then reasoning back to try
and discover what caused it. Parents should be concerned about the character and behavior of their children enough
that they will sacrifice their ego to make corrections in training procedures that are building wrong character
and bad behavior. What kind of behavior do you consider to be unacceptable in a child?
- What can cause a child to be disrespectful?
- What poor parenting skills cause rudeness and selfishness?
- Why will a child be defiant and rebellious?
- Would you not expect a child to be courteous? Why are some children discourteous?
- If children are acting immorally, can that be an indication of a lack of moral training?
- Specifically, when children are allowed to watch immoral, suggestive TV programs or movies, and listen to filthy
music do you think they will grow up to have proper moral values? What do you think habitual exposure to immoral
things produces?
- When children habitually lie, is that an indication of something missing in their training about the value
of truth? Why is it important for children to learn respect for truth?
- When children are lazy and irresponsible, what do you think caused such behavior? Why should you teach and
enforce the concept of responsible work habits?
- What are some causes of "temper fits" and uncontrolled anger? Should this be tolerated or corrected?
Is anger itself wrong?
[Outline] [Purpose] [Recommended Reading] [Introduction] [Lesson
I] [Lesson II] [Lesson III] [Lesson IV] [Lesson V] [Lesson VI] [Lesson VII] [Lesson VIII] [Lesson IX]
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